Tips Berkomunikasi Dengan Anak

Seronok saya melihat kawan-kawan yang semakin ramai melahirkan anak dan membina keluarga masing-masing.Alhamdulillah,pada usia muda, saya tidak ragu-ragu untuk mendirikan rumah tangga dengan jejaka pilihan (24 tahun tu kira mudalah,hehe).Rasa kalau lagi awal,lagi best..Boleh challenge kawan-kawan yang dah ada anak lebih dari saya sekarang,hihi..

Malangnya..saya memiliki satu kekurangan. Saya masih jauhhhhh memahami tentang cara membesarkan anak-anak dengan baik.

Saya selalu berfikir, bila kita sebagai ibu bapa,boleh mula marah pada anak-anak?Bolehke kita memukul anak-anak kerana kedegilan mereka?Kalau boleh,kena pukul kat area mana?Guna apa?How to differentiate between spoiling and caring?

Ada a few comments mengatakan bahawa saya memanjakan anak sulung saya...(ermmm,yeke korang?haha..).It's pretty much confusing to me,seorang ibu muda dan tidak mempunyai ilmu dan pengalaman dalam membesar dan mendidik bayi dan kanak-kanak.How would you say which one is right or which is wrong sebab setiap anak adalah berbeza-beza dari segi sikap dan cara untuk mendidik mereka?Rasanya, orang lain pun macam try and error je sebenarnya,hihi..

So.....parenting is definitely not easy. 

Saya kagum apabila melihat ibu bapa yang mempunyai daya kesabaran yang tinggi dan kreatif dalam mendidik anak-anak mereka. Hats off untuk ibu bapa yang super ini..!Video di bawah adalah salah satu contoh komunikasi yang baik antara seorang ayah dan anak:

Kalau typical parents,confirm dan mengamuk takpun pengsan tengok anak diorang buat sepah and kotor camtu.

If you want to be untypical parents,here's how to do it.And let's don't forget,it's not too late to change and learn to be good parents with good parenting skills ..

Be available for your children

• Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk--for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car--and be available.
• Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's happening in their lives.
• Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.
• Learn about your children's interests--for example, favorite music and activities--and show interest in them.
• Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.

Let your kids know you're listening

• When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.
• Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
• Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.
• Let them complete their point before you respond.
• Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.

Respond in a way your children will hear

• Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
• Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it's okay to disagree.
• Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, "I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think."
• Focus on your child's feelings rather than your own during your conversation.

Remember:

• Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation, such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings, or help solving a problem.
• Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems, and work through difficult feelings.
• Talk to your children--don't lecture, criticize, threaten, or say hurtful things.
• Kids learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, don't feel you have to step in.
• Realize your children may test you by telling you a small part of what is bothering them. Listen carefully to what they say, encourage them to talk, and they may share the rest of the story.

Parenting is hard work

• Listening and talking is the key to a healthy connection between you and your children. But parenting is hard work and maintaining a good connection with teens can be challenging, especially since parents are dealing with many other pressures. If you are having problems over an extended period of time, you might want to consider consulting with a mental health professional to find out how they can help.

Communication skills are very essential in life. Nak interview kerja/scholarship,kena pandai cakap..Nak jaga hati suami atau mertua,kena ensure kita bijak mengatur bicara .Nak bodek boss pun kena pandai susun ayat kan??

Jangan pandang enteng dalam sudut berkomunikasi dengan anak-anak. Talk and listen to them...Jangan biarkan gadget menjadi 'ibu/bapa/pengasuh' mereka..

Credit:

Dr. Molly Brunk, Center for Public Policy, Virginia Commonwealth University

Dr. Jana Martin, Psychology Regional Network, Los Angeles, California

Dr. Nancy Molitor, Northwestern Health Care, Evanston, Illinois

Dr. Janis Sanchez-Hucles, Old Dominion University, Norfolk, Virginia

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